Long before smiling faces, shiny new toys, witty emoji play and seemingly perfect lives became commonplace on your Facebook timeline, aka your convenient portal to the outside world– the Earth turned to a different beat that was softly playing in the stars.
You see, when the earth was young, three wise men met in a manger and shared a secret that has been buried behind a millennia’s worth of secrecy, smoke screens and illusions. This secret was about happiness and how to find it.
This secret is said to be so controversial that the thought of sharing it in public forces the secret holder burden the weight of the disbelieving masses – a heavy lift indeed.
With modern society’s bumper-sticker-mentality and my-life-is fucking-amazing-so-like-my-picture social media craze, we all have forgotten a simple truth.
So I need to ask you something. Are your nipples hard yet? Do you want me to get to the point? Do you want to know the secret.
Ok – I’ll tell ya – just promise me that you are sitting down when you are reading this.
The secret is this: It’s ok to feel like shit.
There I said it, and this time I want you to say it with me – it’s ok to feel like shit.
Doesn’t that feel good?
Yeah it does – high five.
Let’s say it again together one more time for old time’s sake – It’s ok to feel like shit.
Rock-n-roll baby – you did it – you’re in the club.
You see lately it seems that everyone on social media only shares the good- the vacations, the it’s too-good-to-be-true moments- it’s as if social media has become everyone’s personal highlight real.
“Hey look at Johnny, he’s on another vacation again – his life must be great!”
“Hey look at Suzie sitting behind a Porsche – I didn’t realize she had all that money”
“Wow, what am I doing with my life – my vacations don’t seem nearly as fun and my car isn’t nearly as cool – I must be a piece of shit”
The problem is that far few people share the bad, the mundane, the stubbed-your-toe-on-dresser-drawer-mornings and I think this is causing a mass problem for mental health.
Social Media is causing people to constantly compare their life to other people instead of appreciating what they have so if you have a bad day and you see everyone else having an amazing day it can make you feel like you are second-rate. It’s as if the social media boat is leaving an accidental wake of unfulfillment in a no-wake zone.
What Johnny and Suzie aren’t sharing on social media is that Johnny is posting a photo from 5 years ago and Suzie is sitting in coworkers car – convenient details that are left behind on the cutting room floor.
With social media we all need to remember that we only see one side of the story and we never know the back – the world isn’t always what it seems especially when everyone has the ability to edit what they share with the world.
Simply put: The grass isn’t always greener on the otherside– grass is just….grass.
Trust me when I say this – it’s ok to feel like shit sometimes and zero people feel amazing 100% of the time. You need to train your mind to see past all the glitter and bright packaging and realize that people are just people and even the most inspiring people in the world have a bad day from time to time – they’re human.
Happiness comes from simply doing things that make you happy and developing a purpose in your life.
If you are lost and don’t know where to turn just focus on the activities that bring you joy – it’s that easy.
You don’t need the shiny new car to be happy, you don’t need the once-in-a-lifetime trip to feel like you are worth a damn – no it’s easier – do the simple things that you like to do because the truth is if you are doing what you want to be doing you’re winning.
Now don’t get me wrong – it’s good to be happy for other people and if you kicked ass at something you should share it but remember the truth – for every good day someone has, they also have a bad day too.
Now go out into the world the and spread the message and the next time you are feeling down on yourself – know that it’s ok to feel like shit.
Please comment, share and let me know what you think. Write me a witty comment or tell me how I got it all wrong.