When I was lost in the sea of “what to do with my life”, every time some guru/ genius would say “Just Follow your passion” I wanted to take a butter-knife and stick it in my eye.
Pretty graphic right?
“Just follow your passion” is the fast food of life advice, it’s quick, its easy but it doesn’t break down and give your body any nutritional value.
Sure, it’ll feed you, but you’ll be regretting ordering when you’re stuck on a toilet taking a massive, toilet rattling shit.
I have often struggled with pinpointing what I want to do with my life. I was the kid who’s addicted to soda and found my way to a grocery store filled with every soda in the world.
With so many options, I was frozen with choice and feeling that if I took one step I would be turning my back on the rest. I was stuck, I was frustrated and I was confused.
I didn’t need to know what my passion was, what I needed was some clarity as to who I am as a person.
I accomplished this with questions.
Below are the questions I asked myself that I attribute to my clarity. I hope this helps you as it has helped me.
Who Do you Admire & Why? Then Write Down the Similarities.
We all like someone. We all admire someone. We would all trade places with someone. Who are these people and why do you like them? Maybe they’re all creators. Maybe they’re all funny. Maybe you like their social impact. Whatever it is, try to find a theme in the people you admire. This should add clarity as to qualities you like in people and what you would like for yourself.
What are you most proud of?
Was is that killer burrito you made? The one with the habaneros? The one that felt like you were shitting fire? The one where you needed to call the plumber and the bastard charged you 500 dollars. IS that you or is that me. Perhaps it was a garden you started. Maybe it was how you helped your little sister with her homework or taught the new guy a skill at work. Whatever it is, simply know that everyone is proud of something and the pride you felt was you feeling accomplished. The truth is, whatever made you feel proud doesn’t need to be big or world changing but it needs to be something that brought you joy no matter how small. This is a great insight into yourself.
What do you do in your free time?
Aside from taking dumps, watching Netflix and persuading people you have the funniest cat in universe, in-no-particular-order, mind you, you likely spend your free time doing something. What is that thing? Write it down. If money wasn’t an issue, write down what you would do in your free time. This should tell you what you gravitate towards.
What don’t you want to do?
It can be hard to figure out what you want to do, but it isn’t hard to figure out what you don’t want to do. You know the jobs that would make you want to scream? The jobs that you absolutely dread the thought of doing? It might be a good idea to avoid those. Whatever you don’t want to do, write it down. Eliminating options will automatically give you more clarity.
What are you curious about?
For whatever strange reason people dry off curiosity from their body, like a swimmer using a towel after a race. Fuck that, stay curious. What are you curious about? What are you interested in learning about? What can you lose time researching? This is a gateway to your interest my friends.
What would make you so fucking proud, that thinking about it almost scares you?
Oh yes, the big dreams. What are they? What is something that you could accomplish that would make you beam with a smile? What are the dreams that you’re afraid to admit? The ones you don’t admit out loud because you think they’re unrealistic. Newsflash, if someone accomplished something without having a superpower, you can too. In a year from now, if everything went well and you were extremely happy, what would have needed to happen to put a smile on your face? This will help with clarity big time.
What’s a common characteristic in the friends you make?
This was shocking for me, because it was clear as day that all my true friends have the same theme in common; they’re funny. This little question will show you what environment you like to surround yourself with.
What activities make you lose track of time?
Imagine this, you’re working on a project when you look down and suddenly you’re two hours in the future. You’re shocked. “Where did the time go?” you ask yourself as you force yourself to go eat dinner because you skipped it as you were lost in the activity.(Kind of like what happened to me writing this) Those activities you loose your time in are generally the ones you love and should be noted.
If money and fame didn’t matter, and you had all your needs met, what would you do?
I’m assuming you want to be rich and famous. Who doesn’t want that? Welcome to planet earth. Now do me a favor and forget about this. What would you do if you didn’t need the money, and you were already famous? This should be something that you would do because it makes you happy. Whatever this is, write it down.
Fuck qualifications, what jobs would you apply to?
Have ever been looking for a job and you saw a job you were excited for? Yeah? That’s a pretty damn good indication of what you would like to be doing. What are the jobs that would make you jump for joy if you landed them? Note that, and write it down.
Put it all Together
So now that you’ve spent this time analyzing yourself, what did you come up with? Are you noticing a theme? Good. My friends, you’re on your way. The more questions you ask yourself, the more you’ll know yourself.
Please like comment, share and tell me what you think. What are you passionate about? What questions helped you? What questions am I missing?